So I find myself in a bit of a social pickle. The gist of it is: I was invited to 2 different events, that I accepted, that have now come in conflict with each other, schedule-wise.
Let me start by giving some more background on the situation. I have this really good friend who I've known for years, let's call them A, who invited me to their big birthday bash. Initial talks started a couple months ago, but a formal invite did not come until about 2 weeks ago. Being good friends, I had every intention to go to their bday bash, but I kept cautioning that it was anything but a done deal and things could change up until the RSVP deadline. A's bday bash consists of nearly 100 people, 95% of whom I do not know.
I have another friend, let's call them B, who I only really got to know well in the last year, who is getting married. Talk of the wedding initially started like a year ago, but I only received a formal invitation about a month ago. Initially the wedding was on a different day than A's bday, but as fortune would have it, B got his dream job and that screwed up the scheduling, necessitating a last second change in plans to the same day as A's bday bash. B's wedding is a small, intimate affair, with mostly just family and a few friends, of whom I am now considered. Furthermore, we have a number of mutual friends who will also be attending.
Anyway, this left me with a hard decision to make:
Option A: Go to older friend's big birthday bash where I would know next to no one outside of the guest of honor.
Option B: Go to newer friend's small wedding where I would know more people and therefore probably have more fun.
Here is what I ultimately decided on [hidden so as not to potentially bias the vote]:
[spoiler]I went with Option B for more selfish reasons, namely, since there would be more people there I knew, I believe I would have more fun at the wedding. A is understandably upset and mad with me about this last second switcheroo, although I had mentioned there was a slight chance I would not be able to make it, and I did RSVP in the negative by the deadline. [/spoiler]
Anyway, since I have already made my decision, I'm not necessarily asking for what to do, so much as what I should have done. I honestly have no idea what proper etiquette or code of conduct could have been used in this situation and I just want to learn from others in case a similar situation happens in the future. :confused:
Let me start by giving some more background on the situation. I have this really good friend who I've known for years, let's call them A, who invited me to their big birthday bash. Initial talks started a couple months ago, but a formal invite did not come until about 2 weeks ago. Being good friends, I had every intention to go to their bday bash, but I kept cautioning that it was anything but a done deal and things could change up until the RSVP deadline. A's bday bash consists of nearly 100 people, 95% of whom I do not know.
I have another friend, let's call them B, who I only really got to know well in the last year, who is getting married. Talk of the wedding initially started like a year ago, but I only received a formal invitation about a month ago. Initially the wedding was on a different day than A's bday, but as fortune would have it, B got his dream job and that screwed up the scheduling, necessitating a last second change in plans to the same day as A's bday bash. B's wedding is a small, intimate affair, with mostly just family and a few friends, of whom I am now considered. Furthermore, we have a number of mutual friends who will also be attending.
Anyway, this left me with a hard decision to make:
Option A: Go to older friend's big birthday bash where I would know next to no one outside of the guest of honor.
Option B: Go to newer friend's small wedding where I would know more people and therefore probably have more fun.
Here is what I ultimately decided on [hidden so as not to potentially bias the vote]:
[spoiler]I went with Option B for more selfish reasons, namely, since there would be more people there I knew, I believe I would have more fun at the wedding. A is understandably upset and mad with me about this last second switcheroo, although I had mentioned there was a slight chance I would not be able to make it, and I did RSVP in the negative by the deadline. [/spoiler]
Anyway, since I have already made my decision, I'm not necessarily asking for what to do, so much as what I should have done. I honestly have no idea what proper etiquette or code of conduct could have been used in this situation and I just want to learn from others in case a similar situation happens in the future. :confused:
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